Whether your Mother’s Day was spent enjoying time with your family, taking time for you, remembering those who are no longer here or praying or caring for a special child or mother, I hope you had a good day. Regardless of your agenda this past Sunday, I’m sure the day helped us stop and recognize the amazing breadth of motherhood and the strength it takes to have the privilege to be called mom.
Now Mother’s Day is over I realize, but it made me think about what we should be taking from this day everyday. Here are five things to take time for regularly because of that special title you hold.
- Be grateful for the mom you are. Yes, you. As a mom and just as a woman, I often think of what I could be doing better, what I want to be doing better, or I worry about the things I’m just plan bad at or don’t have patience for. So instead, take a few moments and remember what makes you a special mom. The mom your kids love and adore and that they wouldn’t trade for the world. (I have to admit even as I write this I’m tempted to start off with the things I’m not good at before getting to the good stuff, just as you are probably going through your own list. But try hard not to.)For me it would be simple things like sitting down and reading to my girls, playing card games and board games, cooking together, giving hugs throughout the day, fighting for my youngest, and doing my best (which doesn’t always go perfectly) to listen and understand when my oldest is full of emotions. You see there’s nothing grand here, right? I’m not in the place I thought I’d be in motherhood, but when I take some time to think about what’s going right on this journey I’m grateful to have these small things to call my own with my girls.
- Escape for a bit. As an introvert, I desperately need “me” time. Whether it’s sitting down at a coffee shop, running pre-pregnancy, browsing local shops, or writing, I need this time to be a good mom. I need time for me and so do you. I realize we all have very different lives with our own challenges and it can feel impossible, but look for time even if it’s when the kids are in bed to escape and be you.
- Thank the moms around you. Clearly those who raised you and you grew up with – your mom, grandma, close aunts – come to mind around Mother’s Day. I have so much to thank them for! There’s also the moms you greatly respect and admire and who help you get through the challenges you’re living in this moment. The ones who inspire you to keep doing your best at this mom-gig and who complement your mom-style. I will be forever grateful to be surrounded by amazing moms. So many of you have been there for ways I could have never imagined.
- Expect and enjoy the simple. I mean this especially on days like Mother’s Day. My little family is wonderful, and I know they want to plan a special day but with kids there’s always the unexpected. Your kids may have made you a sweet card or painting and gave you an extra big hug, but it’s really a typical day for them. They’re not going to be an angel all day long. There will be complaining, there will be messes, and if and when we expect a much more perfect day, then these normal circumstances will feel so much more overwhelming. This year my hubby made me breakfast at home because I kindly explained I have NO desire to go out to brunch on Mother’s Day. Maybe when everyone’s grown and before grandkids we can make that a successful morning – am I right? I would much, much rather let my kids have their comfort at home and try and slowly enjoy my coffee at my own kitchen table, limited caffeine and all. And as the day went on, everything was actually going pretty well so we decided to go out for a late lunch/early dinner to miss the crowds and take a break. And it was glorious.
- Take photos together. Over the last couple of years I’ve totally dropped the ball on taking photos during special occasions. I’ve gotten in the mindset that since Mother’s Day (my birthday, Father’s Day, etc.) happen every year there’s no need to make them a big deal now that we’re grown. But I’ve been wrong. I still stand by enjoying the simplicity of these days but it doesn’t mean there isn’t cause for celebration or to capture the memories. We don’t know when one of these will be the last. So tell your partner or friend to snap a few photos of you and your kids this Mother’s Day week if you didn’t last weekend or even just take a few selfies. I’m going to try hard to remember this myself and not worry what I look like in the photos. What I want to remember from this particular day is my girls at ages three and five, my big belly half way through to meeting our next little girl and the mom I’m thankful to be today, and for my mom, my mother-in-law and the many amazing moms I have around me at this time in my life.
So cheers! Here’s to you, momma! Happy Mother’s Day. May it be every day.